Today’s MamaHood Monday post is not about Mom’s particularly, but Mom’s and Dad’s (or Dad’s and Dad;s, or Mom’s and Mom’s) Since father’s day was yesterday I thought I would share some ways Jerrod and I are able to build a stronger relationship after baby.
- Compliments and saying thank you- Honestly, who does not appreciate a compliment. This can be a compliment for anything, but I make it a point to thank/compliment Jerrod for small things all the time.
- Verbally recognize each other for being a good parent and partner – we all go through phases where you feel like less than a great parent so hearing encouragement from your partner can really feel good.
- ask if they need help – I am sure that we can all tell when our partners are getting frustrated or overwhelmed with baby, so instead of snapping at each other out of frustration just ask “do you need help” I have noticed that just asking this or hearing it can help to calm the situation – it feels good to know your partner is paying attention.
- Learn to let each other parent – there are no two people that parent exactly alike, and I am a control freak so this way VERY hard for me. I always wanted to jump in and do it myself because I thought my way was “better” but as Ro has grown older I have learned that my way is no better than Jerrod’s just different and that is okay.
- Make time together quality – What I mean by this is make the time you have together really matter. That means dinner at the table with no TV on, or just talking about your day before bed. I completely understand the habit of picking up your phone to just endlessly scroll, but it can make such a difference in your day and relationships to be present in the moment
- Know your partners love language – this sounds weird, but it totally helps! you can take a free test online and it will help you understand your partner more. Mine is quality time, and Jerrod’s is physical love (hug, kisses, etc.) I really think this has made a difference and it is such a more simple way to understand what your partner needs when they are not feeling the love.
What are some things that your and your partner do since having a little one that help your relationship?