12 Favorite Mama Moments

One year can seem like a lifetime, but as a mother it feels like it has gone by in the blink of an eye. Every day holds a new memory and experience and I constantly struggle between documenting everything I can, or just being completely present in the moment; for the most part I choose the latter. Motherhood is the most bittersweet thing in the world; you want them to stay young because you are their whole world, and they are your whole heart. But you also love to watch them grow and experience new things; you also look forward to all the adventures you will have in the future (but you also sometimes cry they are growing up too fast – totally guilty of this) it is the hardest, most wonderful thing in the entire world! Below are a few of my favorite moments during Rosalie’s first year

1. when she was put on my belly after being born and we snuggled for almost an hour! So blessed that Rosalie was healthy and no urgent care was needed. Those first minutes together were the best of my life.

2. her sleeping on my belly during rough nights – I really cherish this because now she is so big and mobile she has no interest in just laying with me (unless she is really tired!)

3. smiling at me for the first time – all I can say is this changes your life. Best.Thing.Ever

4. driving to California to see her great grandparents – this road trip was trying at times, but what a amazing memory!

5. Her first Halloween – ๐Ÿ˜

6. Her first thanksgiving

7. Her first Christmas

8. Greeting her on the morning – Rosalie has slept in her own crib since around 4 1/2 or 5 months and greeting her in the morning is so wonderful. She is usually looking around and talking to herself, and you say good morning and she lights up. The most amazing way to start the day!

9. Taking baths in the big girl tub with all her toys – cuteness overload, and now that she is not confused by the water watching her play is so fun

10. Crawling – my parents just happened to be over the night she crawled for the first time and it was something we all really cherish

11. Getting in the pool for the first time – she is such a goof in the water and is just in heaven when she gets to be a little fish

12. Giving her baby messages, putting her in PJs, and reading to her each night – such a wonderful way to end the day and reading to her is so fun – she loves it and so do I ๐Ÿ˜

-Allison

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MamaHood Monday Vol 13

As bittersweet as it is, Rosalie’s first birthday is fast approaching. (I will probably be crying off an on all day on her birthday) I never thought a year could fly by so quickly and also be filled with so many lessons!

In honor of the big ONE the next few Mondays leading up to her birthday I thought I would share my 12 favorites – products, memories, and things about Rosalie. This week I have put together my 12 go-to items for babies first year > read on for all the details on each item…

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<a href="http://Munchkin Latch Natural Shaped Pacifier – 2 CT” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Latch Pacifiers– I was totally skeptical about these at first, but they were and still are Rosalie’s favorite. I love that there is not hard plastic on these so if she rolls over on one it will not hurt and they have also held up really well!

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<a href="http://Boppy Nursing Pillow and Positioner, Notebook Black/Gold” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Boppy Breastfeeding Pillow –ย This will save your arms and shoulders when you are feeding your little one every 3 hours. I never registered for one because I thought they were not necessary, but I sure changed my tune quick! The cover is also removable so it is easy to keep clean.

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<a href="http://Babygoal Pacifier Clips Solid Color(3 Pack) Fits All Pacifier Styles for Girls And Boys PS01” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Pacifier Clip –These little things are not a necessity, but they sure make our lives easier as sometimes Rosalie will pop out her suckie to talk of snack or what have you and this prevent us have to wash her pacifier each time.

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<a href="http://Philips AVENT Bottle Warmer, Fast” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Bottle Warmer –ย This is an item that we ordered after Rosalie was a few weeks old and I wish we would have had it from the beginning. I was not able to produce enough breast milk so we used formula and this thing made life so much better. it is so quick and simple to use – one of the best buys for us indeed!

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<a href="http://Hudson Baby Muslin Swaddle Blankets, Foxes” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Muslin Baby Blankets – This one can totally depend on your baby, but Rosalie ran hot so rather than thick cotton or fleece blankets we preferred muslin. I also prefer these as they are usually bigger than a regular baby blanket and also have better prints

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<a href="http://Safety 1st 1st Grooming Kit, Arctic Blue” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Baby Grooming Kit– Helpful for the obvious reasons! ๐Ÿ™‚ be sure to clip your little ones nail once they are asleep, so much easier.

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<a href="http://Lappi Baby Lounger/Bed Bassinet – Giraffes Unisex Baby Nest – 100% Cotton Cosleeping Baby Bed – Breathable & Hypoallergenic Sleep Nest – Newborn Lounger Pillow” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Baby Nest – there are many variations of these, but the idea is all the same, make your little one feel surrounded for easier sleeping. Totally worth the money, made putting Rosie to bed so much easier!

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<a href="http://Infantino Spiral Activity Toy, Blue” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Car Seat Toy – Not a must have, but definitely makes car rides and trips to the store more exciting for your little one.

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<a href="http://Dreambaby Clip On Stroller Fan, Black w/Silver” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Car Seat Fan– So nice for the hotter months, and we all know that a comfortable baby is a happy baby so i was all for this thing. Works really well and the blades are foam so no risk of your little one getting hurt

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<a href="http://Carter’s Baby Newborn-9M Hooded Sherpa Pram Sleep & Play 6 Months” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Warm Winter Wear – Just like keeping baby cool in the summer, we also have to make sure they are warm and toasty in the winter. Love little suits like this is the colder weather as they keep Rosie really warm, and they are also so freaking cute!

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<a href="http://American Baby Company Waterproof Fitted Crib and Toddler Protective Mattress Pad Cover, White” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Waterproof Crib Mattress Pad –ย This may sound like overkill since most crib mattresses are waterproof, but I layer the sheets on Rosalie’s bed (crib mattress, sheet, mattress pad, sheet) and it makes it so much easier if I need to change the sheets in the middle of the night.

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<a href="http://Munchkin 2 Piece Snack Catcher, Blue/Green” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Baby Snack Cups – Now that Rosalie can feed herself snacks these cups are so awesome. she can still access her treats, but they don’t go everywhere. thank you to the great person that invented this!

So there you have it! are any of these things ones that you also loved? or are your favorites ones I did not mention? I would love to hear your thoughts ๐Ÿ™‚
-Allison

MamaHood Monday – Vol 12

Today’s MamaHood Monday post is not about Mom’s particularly, but Mom’s and Dad’s (or Dad’s and Dad;s, or Mom’s and Mom’s) Since father’s day was yesterday I thought I would share some ways Jerrod and I are able to build a stronger relationship after baby.

  1. Compliments and saying thank you-ย  Honestly, who does not appreciate a compliment. This can be a compliment for anything, but I make it a point to thank/compliment Jerrod for small things all the time.
  2. Verbally recognize each other for being a good parent and partner – we all go through phases where you feel like less than a great parent so hearing encouragement from your partner can really feel good.
  3. ask if they need help – I am sure that we can all tell when our partners are getting frustrated or overwhelmed with baby, so instead of snapping at each other out of frustration just ask “do you need help” I have noticed that just asking this or hearing it can help to calm the situation – it feels good to know your partner is paying attention.
  4. Learn to let each other parent – there are no two people that parent exactly alike, and I am a control freak so this way VERY hard for me. I always wanted to jump in and do it myself because I thought my way was “better” but as Ro has grown older I have learned that my way is no better than Jerrod’sย  just different and that is okay.
  5. Make time together quality – What I mean by this is make the time you have together really matter. That means dinner at the table with no TV on, or just talking about your day before bed. I completely understand the habit of picking up your phone to just endlessly scroll, but it can make such a difference in your day and relationships to be present in the moment
  6. Know your partners love language – this sounds weird, but it totally helps! you can take a free test online and it will help you understand your partnerย  more. Mine is quality time, and Jerrod’s is physical love (hug, kisses, etc.) I really think this has made a difference and it is such a more simple way to understand what your partner needs when they are not feeling the love.

What are some things that your and your partner do since having a little one that help your relationship?

-Allison

MamaHood Monday : Feeling Good About Your Body After Pregnancy

^yes, I totally had a beer and a cinnamon roll right after giving birth! #EarnedIt

As a new mom there is a lot of pressure to “bounce back” after having a baby. Well, I am here to tell you that childbirth is not easy (or pretty) and mama you need some time! When I say time, I am not talking a few months, I am talking about years! I know that sounds so crazy but I read a article the other day that said some doctors believe it takes 9 months for a woman’s body to fully recover from pregnancy and birth. That is just your body getting back to normal – and there was no mention of toned abs or diets anywhere! I am a firm believer that it is okay to look human, and that means it is okay to have flaws. I thought I would share a few of my own mantras for a positive body image after baby

– being a great mom and wife is more important to me than loosing weight or having my ideal body

– food is awesome! Eat healthy but treat yourself too! You take care of a mini human everyday – you need the fuel

– treat your body well, healthy food, staying active and also caring for your mind. Positivity in all things!

– what is all over social media is not real life. (A beautiful reminder of real women being Mothers on instagram – @takebackpostpartum)

– you grew a human, you are amazing! Your body will never be exactly like it was so embrace the change!

Thanks for stopping by!

-Allison

MamaHood Monday Vol. 10

We all have bad days and babies are no exception. Whether it is gas, teething, exhaustion or just a bad mood here are a few of the things that Jerrod and I do to still have a great family day even if Ro is a not-so-happy baby.

  1. Eliminate the obvious – make sure baby is fed, changed and also comfortable. Comfortable can mean different things for different babies – but I always like to make sure her clothes are comfy, no tags a bugging her, and she can move freely; also that she is not too hot or cold.
  2. Don’t get frustrated! – Believe me when I say that I completely understanding how trying it can be to hear a baby cry and not be able to sooth said baby. I know that sometimes we can get flustered when the regular fixes don’t work, but we try our best no to get frustrated! I am a firm believer that babies can pick up on your emotions and will also mimic them, so stay positive, and if need be place the baby in a safe area and step away for a moment if you need a breather.
  3. Stay positive and talk to your little one – This works really well for me and Ro when she is having a hard time. Sometimes I just need to sit down and talk to her until I get a smile. Once I have her smiling we are usually able to play or give her a toy and “distract” her from her baby troubles.
  4. Pay attention to your partner – This one might sound a little odd, but it is very important to pay attention to your partner and know when to let them tap out if it becomes too much. This weekend I was in the garage working on a DIY baby gate (post coming soon) and I had the door cracked to hear Jerrod and the baby; after a certain point of Ro being fussy I could tell patience was wearing thin and I was time for mama to take a break from my project and for Jerrod to take a break for baby duty.

Everyone has different ways to make not-so-good days better and these are just a few of the things that work for us. (again, every baby is different so take my suggestions with a grain of salt ๐Ÿ™‚ ) How do you improve a bad day for yourself or your kids?

happy Monday! – Allison

MamaHood Monday Vol 9

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Yesterday marked my first official Mother’s Day! Before becoming a mom I had my own thoughts about Mother’s Day and what it was and meant, and as with most things after becoming a parent, I am signing a different tune today!

I do still totally agree that Mother’s Day was created out of thin air (just like Valentine’s Day and Father’s Day) but damn did it felt good to be appreciated for a full day just specifically for being a mom. I mean, don’t get me wrong, Dads, partners, friends and family are all a huge help when you have a child, but as a mom we are the ones that are pregnant and form that bond before anyone else. We are the ones that work our butts off bringing that little one into the world, and when they are finally here we are the ones who struggle. Struggle with recovery, breastfeeding, bonding, self image, guilt, and just a general feeling of “I don’t know what the hell I am doing!”ย (Just for clarification I am talking about all Mothers regardless of biological ties or sexual identity)

Although my family did a small celebration on Saturday for Mother’s Day I woke up to my baby girl on Sunday morning and said a extra thank you to whatever greater being let me me her mama. We let dad sleep in and watched Finding Dory together and snuggled on the couch. Some of the smallest moments with your children are the most meaningful ๐Ÿ™‚

I have always thought that Mothers should be celebrated most on their children’s birthdays – What are your thoughts on Mother’s Day?

-Allison

 

 

 

MamaHood – New Mom advice

Our baby girl is turning 9 moths old tomorrow and I cannot believe it! All at once it seems like she was just born, but like she has also been with us forever. I don’t remember life before her, and I never want to experience new things without her. The love a mother feels for her children is truly unlike anything else.

With all this being said (and also since I missed this weeks MamaHood Monday – whoops!) I thought I would share some of the worst advice that I received as a new mom, and why I think it is so bad!

1. Don’t hold your baby too much, you will spoil them. When I was told this and even hearing it now makes me so mad! How on earth can you love a child too much? And also you have this little person that is used to being with you all the time so yes, they still want to be with you once they are born. Newborns cannot self sooth contrary to what the internet says so holding them and keeping them close is how we comfort them.

2. Sleep when the baby sleeps I hated hearing this because people make it seem like you have nothing else to do but put the baby down for a nap then grab some Z’s yourself. Um, no, that is not how it is. There are dishes, laundry, bills, and don’t forget your spouse and showering! Like anything else, there is not enough time in the day and for us it was important to not only catch some sleep but also keep the house tidy. I can live in more of a mess than my husband, but luckily he was able to take 2 weeks off to help when our little one arrived so I would do most of the baby duties and he would do most everything around the house.

3. If your first baby is good your next will be a terror I still get told this on almost a weekly basis and it drives me nuts. Our little one is a very calm and happy girl, don’t get me wrong she has her meltdowns, but we also take her everywhere so she is used to being out and about. People will see how laidback she is and the conversation always goes the same – is she your first? Oh, she is so calm. You know what they say, the next one will be a terror. (Insert me internally screaming here) I 1000% think that thought process is ridiculous. I think babies and children act based off of what our reactions and energies are. (Hippy Trippy, I know)

4. You have to start sleep training your baby ASAP! As I mentioned before newborns cannot self sooth and therefore you can’t sleep train them! (We were also given this advise from my doctor and all the nurses when we delivered) babies are meant to wake up at night and they are designed to eat every two to three hours in the beginning. Believe me Mama, I know it can be tiring but your little on needs you, and it will be over before you know if. Dare I say you might even miss it at some point! Bedtime routines are really great to start early (we started at one month) and by the time your baby is not needing to eat at night getting them asleep and keeping them asleep will be so much easier.

5. It is so important to breastfeed This one is something I hate hearing people say because I really struggled in this department. Like many of the women in my family I could not produce enough to keep Ro at a healthy weight so we switched to formula and she thrived! This was also super frustrating because my boobs got huge and there was nothing in them!!! I would have loved to breastfeed my daughter, but I had such guilt, frustration and lots of tears that I finally said screw it and it lifted so much weight off my shoulders! Breast is great, but for some women it is not a option, a fed baby is a happy baby ๐Ÿ˜

What are other pieces of advice you have hear people give that drive you crazy?

Thanks for reading,

Allison