MamaHood Monday : Self Support for Mom Guilt

As much as I wish I could say that mom guilt is not a thing it most definitely is and it sucks. Most everything in life becomes a double edged sword where you are always nagging yourself for something you could have done differently or just better. Well there is hope! The way today talk to yourself has a profound impact on all things you do including being a mom and how satisfied you are with your mom-ing at the end of the day. I wanted to share a few things I will tell myself when I need a little extra support that usually bring me back down to earth.

1. “Do a days work in a day” you night have heard this in a work setting, but I think it applies to all areas in life. There is no way in hell that I am going to get everything done in one day that I want to – I am only one person and the housework is not going anywhere (sadly) so make priorities and try to stay productive throughout the week – it is amazing what a few minutes here and there can do!

2. “Everyone struggles as a parent, don’t compare your beginning with someone else’s middle” in the world we live in is it so easy to start comparing your life to others and I am sure you have seen those parents that look like they have it all together. Well, newsflash! They don’t, some people are just better actors than others

3. “Quality time can sometimes be greater than quantity” As a working mom this is something I have to remind myself of a lot. 2-3 solid hours of being together at night and paying full attention to each other is what counts. (And this is also my favorite part of the day) this means I am not on my phone or a computer and I am usually down on the floor with her playing – unless we are eating dinner of course

4. “No one can love your baby like you can” I will be the first to admit that sometimes I do get envious of our daycare provider because she is able to be with Rosie so much. Although my rational mind reminds me that she is also with other children and I am sure she sometimes wants to pull out her hair my irrational mind feels guilty. But the truth is I am always going to be her mom, that no one will ever love her like I do and when we are together making that time count is what matters most

Do you have any tips or tricks for combating mom guilt?

Happy Monday

-Allison

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MamaHood Monday : Favorite Apps for Pregnancy and Motherhood

If you are anything like me the moment you decide you want to start trying for a baby you start to download all sort of apps. From ovulation trackers to breastfeeding schedules it can get intense, so I thought I would put together my favorite past and present applications to make your current or future life a bit more simple.

1. Ovia – This was the very first app I downloaded to help me figure out when I was ovulating. In my experience the app was very easy to use and gave me all the information I needed to know – what was happening with my body and my chances of getting pregnant throughout the month. (Free)

2. The Bump – when I did eventually get a positive pregnancy test I downloaded The Bump ASAP because I wanted to know every little thing that was happening for me and baby. I love this app because it stays up to date with you as you progress in your pregnancy and it also has brief articles on all things MamaHood! (Free)

3. MammaBaby – we downloaded this app while still in the hospital to keep track of feedings and continued to use it once we got home. Super simple set up, and also gives you the option to track diaper changes, growth and sleeping. (Free)

4. Sleepy Pillow – All new parents want their baby to fall asleep and stay asleep and getting that to happen successfully usually takes a routine. As a newborn each night we would have our routine and then I would choose music from the app to play for and hour (it had a timer you can set to turn off automatically!) this really helped Rosalie to know that it was night time sleeping and not daytime naps and she started to be able to comfortably fall asleep on her own. I also really love this app when I am having issues falling asleep. (Free)

5. Baby Stimulation – I only let Rosalie play on this rarely but as a distraction for a few minutes if I need to go into another room or complete a task it is great. Also is good for hand eye coordination. (This app is free for one “game” and is 1.99$ to unlock all features)

What are some awesome apps that you enjoy? Parent related or not? I love to hear suggestions – have a great Monday!

-Allison

DIY : pallets into baby gates

I will be the first to admit that before I had my own little one I dreaded baby gates. Once I opened them it seemed impossible to put them back the way they were; and most of them (in my opinion) were an eye sore. So once I knew our days were numbered of having a stationary baby I started thinking about what I wanted to make, and I landed on baby gates made out of pallets!

The pictures I included below are a few steps I took along the way and I ended up making two gates, one for the top of the stairs and one for the bottom.

This project was almost free as I scored the pallets at no cost from my brother in law and have most of the hardware, stains and tools needed except the latches, which are very affordable.

^ don’t mind my work shoes ๐Ÿ˜

My biggest advice when making things is to always measure twice cute once!

When brain storming I just drew up the idea for my space and measured it to fit. I was able to make two gates out of one and a half pallets and I sanded everything extremely well in addition to staining and sealing it. I would definitely also suggest pre-drilling any holes as thinner wood has the tendency to crack and split

All and all I am happy with how they turned out, but they are still in need of some touch ups (whenever I have the time) One things I am excited for is to hang a wreath on the gate at the bottom of the stairs for Christmas – cheesy, I know ๐Ÿ˜…

What are your thoughts on this DIY? Hope you have a great Wednesday!

-Allison

MamaHood Monday – 12 Favorite things

Raising a human is the most difficult and amazing job in the world. To choose only 12 things I love about my little one was hard to do because even when I feel like I am loosing it I still love every moment! Read on to hear 12 things I love about my Rosie Bug ๐Ÿ˜

1. Her laughter! Nothing is better in the whole entire world!

2. Her chit chat, excitement and intense enthusiasm for things

3. Her reaction to seeing her daddy – such a big smile that she reserves just for him – my heart melts a little everything I get to see it

4. The way she sleeps with her butt in the air – I guess I did this as a child as well, but it just cracks me up.

5. Her happiness every morning – she is such a happy child and wakes up everyday smiling and ready to play (but like all of us she does have some bad days)

6. The way she loves her fur brothers – now that she is mobile she is fascinated with the dogs, and she laughs at them all the time.

7. The way she sneaks food to the dogs – you can’t get the dogs to leave her alone when she is eating, and over the past week she tries to sneak them food. The dogs are so gentle with her it is sweet

8. The way she falls asleep with me on the weekend mornings

– like any normal person we don’t like to get up early on the weekends but Rosie is used to it. So if she wakes up around our normal time, I will get her a fresh diaper and then it is time to cuddle and snooze with momma for a hour or two. A little slice of heaven

9. Her love of reading – we have read before going to bed for almost every night since she was born. She loves the books and I get extra snuggle time – win win!

10. The way she initiates Pick a boo and never gets tired of it – now that she is able to grab a blanket and start the game it is a while new level of fun!

11. The way she stretches! She straightens her legs and pushes out her belly – cutest thing ever!

12. Her willingness to try anything – Rosalie is a cool customer and rarely dislikes anything that she tries. This can be food or and activity – she just wants to be where the action is

I cannot believe that she will be one in a little over a week, time moves so differently when you are a parent! I am sure by the time her birthday arrives this list will be completely different

Happy Monday,

Allison

12 Favorite Mama Moments

One year can seem like a lifetime, but as a mother it feels like it has gone by in the blink of an eye. Every day holds a new memory and experience and I constantly struggle between documenting everything I can, or just being completely present in the moment; for the most part I choose the latter. Motherhood is the most bittersweet thing in the world; you want them to stay young because you are their whole world, and they are your whole heart. But you also love to watch them grow and experience new things; you also look forward to all the adventures you will have in the future (but you also sometimes cry they are growing up too fast – totally guilty of this) it is the hardest, most wonderful thing in the entire world! Below are a few of my favorite moments during Rosalie’s first year

1. when she was put on my belly after being born and we snuggled for almost an hour! So blessed that Rosalie was healthy and no urgent care was needed. Those first minutes together were the best of my life.

2. her sleeping on my belly during rough nights – I really cherish this because now she is so big and mobile she has no interest in just laying with me (unless she is really tired!)

3. smiling at me for the first time – all I can say is this changes your life. Best.Thing.Ever

4. driving to California to see her great grandparents – this road trip was trying at times, but what a amazing memory!

5. Her first Halloween – ๐Ÿ˜

6. Her first thanksgiving

7. Her first Christmas

8. Greeting her on the morning – Rosalie has slept in her own crib since around 4 1/2 or 5 months and greeting her in the morning is so wonderful. She is usually looking around and talking to herself, and you say good morning and she lights up. The most amazing way to start the day!

9. Taking baths in the big girl tub with all her toys – cuteness overload, and now that she is not confused by the water watching her play is so fun

10. Crawling – my parents just happened to be over the night she crawled for the first time and it was something we all really cherish

11. Getting in the pool for the first time – she is such a goof in the water and is just in heaven when she gets to be a little fish

12. Giving her baby messages, putting her in PJs, and reading to her each night – such a wonderful way to end the day and reading to her is so fun – she loves it and so do I ๐Ÿ˜

-Allison

MamaHood Monday Vol 13

As bittersweet as it is, Rosalie’s first birthday is fast approaching. (I will probably be crying off an on all day on her birthday) I never thought a year could fly by so quickly and also be filled with so many lessons!

In honor of the big ONE the next few Mondays leading up to her birthday I thought I would share my 12 favorites – products, memories, and things about Rosalie. This week I have put together my 12 go-to items for babies first year > read on for all the details on each item…

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<a href="http://Munchkin Latch Natural Shaped Pacifier – 2 CT” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Latch Pacifiers– I was totally skeptical about these at first, but they were and still are Rosalie’s favorite. I love that there is not hard plastic on these so if she rolls over on one it will not hurt and they have also held up really well!

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<a href="http://Boppy Nursing Pillow and Positioner, Notebook Black/Gold” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Boppy Breastfeeding Pillow –ย This will save your arms and shoulders when you are feeding your little one every 3 hours. I never registered for one because I thought they were not necessary, but I sure changed my tune quick! The cover is also removable so it is easy to keep clean.

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<a href="http://Babygoal Pacifier Clips Solid Color(3 Pack) Fits All Pacifier Styles for Girls And Boys PS01” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Pacifier Clip –These little things are not a necessity, but they sure make our lives easier as sometimes Rosalie will pop out her suckie to talk of snack or what have you and this prevent us have to wash her pacifier each time.

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<a href="http://Philips AVENT Bottle Warmer, Fast” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Bottle Warmer –ย This is an item that we ordered after Rosalie was a few weeks old and I wish we would have had it from the beginning. I was not able to produce enough breast milk so we used formula and this thing made life so much better. it is so quick and simple to use – one of the best buys for us indeed!

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<a href="http://Hudson Baby Muslin Swaddle Blankets, Foxes” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Muslin Baby Blankets – This one can totally depend on your baby, but Rosalie ran hot so rather than thick cotton or fleece blankets we preferred muslin. I also prefer these as they are usually bigger than a regular baby blanket and also have better prints

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<a href="http://Safety 1st 1st Grooming Kit, Arctic Blue” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Baby Grooming Kit– Helpful for the obvious reasons! ๐Ÿ™‚ be sure to clip your little ones nail once they are asleep, so much easier.

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<a href="http://Lappi Baby Lounger/Bed Bassinet – Giraffes Unisex Baby Nest – 100% Cotton Cosleeping Baby Bed – Breathable & Hypoallergenic Sleep Nest – Newborn Lounger Pillow” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Baby Nest – there are many variations of these, but the idea is all the same, make your little one feel surrounded for easier sleeping. Totally worth the money, made putting Rosie to bed so much easier!

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<a href="http://Infantino Spiral Activity Toy, Blue” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Car Seat Toy – Not a must have, but definitely makes car rides and trips to the store more exciting for your little one.

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<a href="http://Dreambaby Clip On Stroller Fan, Black w/Silver” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Car Seat Fan– So nice for the hotter months, and we all know that a comfortable baby is a happy baby so i was all for this thing. Works really well and the blades are foam so no risk of your little one getting hurt

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<a href="http://Carter’s Baby Newborn-9M Hooded Sherpa Pram Sleep & Play 6 Months” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Warm Winter Wear – Just like keeping baby cool in the summer, we also have to make sure they are warm and toasty in the winter. Love little suits like this is the colder weather as they keep Rosie really warm, and they are also so freaking cute!

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<a href="http://American Baby Company Waterproof Fitted Crib and Toddler Protective Mattress Pad Cover, White” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Waterproof Crib Mattress Pad –ย This may sound like overkill since most crib mattresses are waterproof, but I layer the sheets on Rosalie’s bed (crib mattress, sheet, mattress pad, sheet) and it makes it so much easier if I need to change the sheets in the middle of the night.

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<a href="http://Munchkin 2 Piece Snack Catcher, Blue/Green” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener”>Baby Snack Cups – Now that Rosalie can feed herself snacks these cups are so awesome. she can still access her treats, but they don’t go everywhere. thank you to the great person that invented this!

So there you have it! are any of these things ones that you also loved? or are your favorites ones I did not mention? I would love to hear your thoughts ๐Ÿ™‚
-Allison

MamaHood Monday – Vol 12

Today’s MamaHood Monday post is not about Mom’s particularly, but Mom’s and Dad’s (or Dad’s and Dad;s, or Mom’s and Mom’s) Since father’s day was yesterday I thought I would share some ways Jerrod and I are able to build a stronger relationship after baby.

  1. Compliments and saying thank you-ย  Honestly, who does not appreciate a compliment. This can be a compliment for anything, but I make it a point to thank/compliment Jerrod for small things all the time.
  2. Verbally recognize each other for being a good parent and partner – we all go through phases where you feel like less than a great parent so hearing encouragement from your partner can really feel good.
  3. ask if they need help – I am sure that we can all tell when our partners are getting frustrated or overwhelmed with baby, so instead of snapping at each other out of frustration just ask “do you need help” I have noticed that just asking this or hearing it can help to calm the situation – it feels good to know your partner is paying attention.
  4. Learn to let each other parent – there are no two people that parent exactly alike, and I am a control freak so this way VERY hard for me. I always wanted to jump in and do it myself because I thought my way was “better” but as Ro has grown older I have learned that my way is no better than Jerrod’sย  just different and that is okay.
  5. Make time together quality – What I mean by this is make the time you have together really matter. That means dinner at the table with no TV on, or just talking about your day before bed. I completely understand the habit of picking up your phone to just endlessly scroll, but it can make such a difference in your day and relationships to be present in the moment
  6. Know your partners love language – this sounds weird, but it totally helps! you can take a free test online and it will help you understand your partnerย  more. Mine is quality time, and Jerrod’s is physical love (hug, kisses, etc.) I really think this has made a difference and it is such a more simple way to understand what your partner needs when they are not feeling the love.

What are some things that your and your partner do since having a little one that help your relationship?

-Allison