MamaHood Monday : Self Support for Mom Guilt

As much as I wish I could say that mom guilt is not a thing it most definitely is and it sucks. Most everything in life becomes a double edged sword where you are always nagging yourself for something you could have done differently or just better. Well there is hope! The way today talk to yourself has a profound impact on all things you do including being a mom and how satisfied you are with your mom-ing at the end of the day. I wanted to share a few things I will tell myself when I need a little extra support that usually bring me back down to earth.

1. “Do a days work in a day” you night have heard this in a work setting, but I think it applies to all areas in life. There is no way in hell that I am going to get everything done in one day that I want to – I am only one person and the housework is not going anywhere (sadly) so make priorities and try to stay productive throughout the week – it is amazing what a few minutes here and there can do!

2. “Everyone struggles as a parent, don’t compare your beginning with someone else’s middle” in the world we live in is it so easy to start comparing your life to others and I am sure you have seen those parents that look like they have it all together. Well, newsflash! They don’t, some people are just better actors than others

3. “Quality time can sometimes be greater than quantity” As a working mom this is something I have to remind myself of a lot. 2-3 solid hours of being together at night and paying full attention to each other is what counts. (And this is also my favorite part of the day) this means I am not on my phone or a computer and I am usually down on the floor with her playing – unless we are eating dinner of course

4. “No one can love your baby like you can” I will be the first to admit that sometimes I do get envious of our daycare provider because she is able to be with Rosie so much. Although my rational mind reminds me that she is also with other children and I am sure she sometimes wants to pull out her hair my irrational mind feels guilty. But the truth is I am always going to be her mom, that no one will ever love her like I do and when we are together making that time count is what matters most

Do you have any tips or tricks for combating mom guilt?

Happy Monday

-Allison

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MamaHood Monday : Favorite Apps for Pregnancy and Motherhood

If you are anything like me the moment you decide you want to start trying for a baby you start to download all sort of apps. From ovulation trackers to breastfeeding schedules it can get intense, so I thought I would put together my favorite past and present applications to make your current or future life a bit more simple.

1. Ovia – This was the very first app I downloaded to help me figure out when I was ovulating. In my experience the app was very easy to use and gave me all the information I needed to know – what was happening with my body and my chances of getting pregnant throughout the month. (Free)

2. The Bump – when I did eventually get a positive pregnancy test I downloaded The Bump ASAP because I wanted to know every little thing that was happening for me and baby. I love this app because it stays up to date with you as you progress in your pregnancy and it also has brief articles on all things MamaHood! (Free)

3. MammaBaby – we downloaded this app while still in the hospital to keep track of feedings and continued to use it once we got home. Super simple set up, and also gives you the option to track diaper changes, growth and sleeping. (Free)

4. Sleepy Pillow – All new parents want their baby to fall asleep and stay asleep and getting that to happen successfully usually takes a routine. As a newborn each night we would have our routine and then I would choose music from the app to play for and hour (it had a timer you can set to turn off automatically!) this really helped Rosalie to know that it was night time sleeping and not daytime naps and she started to be able to comfortably fall asleep on her own. I also really love this app when I am having issues falling asleep. (Free)

5. Baby Stimulation – I only let Rosalie play on this rarely but as a distraction for a few minutes if I need to go into another room or complete a task it is great. Also is good for hand eye coordination. (This app is free for one “game” and is 1.99$ to unlock all features)

What are some awesome apps that you enjoy? Parent related or not? I love to hear suggestions – have a great Monday!

-Allison

Our First Couples Trip Since Baby

Jerrod and I were lucky enough to be gifted a trip to Las Vegas and it was our first time being away from our little one. I totally expected to cry a lot being without Rosie, but I surprisingly did not! It was honestly very refreshing to have time just for us as a couple even though we did talk about her ALL THE TIME.

I am really looking forward to all the family trips we will take together, but couple time is needed too! What are some some things that you do with your SO for quality time together whether you have kids or not.

Happy Tuesday!

-Allison

Rosie’s First Birthday

I am now the mother of a one year old and I still cannot believe it! I had all these plans to take pictures of everything before people arrived for the party, but as usual I was running late so that did not happen, lol! 😅 But these pictures of Rosie eating her cake are amazing, and make up for my lack of decor pictures. Her party was fruit themed and her smash cake was make to look like a lemon slice – vanilla cake with butter cream frosting – so cute! And delicious. We had so many friends and family come over to see her and celebrate with us and I honestly could not have asked for more. Being able to do stuff like this for Rosie is just one of the many perks of motherhood ♥️

Happy Tuesday

-Allison

MamaHood Monday – Vol 12

Today’s MamaHood Monday post is not about Mom’s particularly, but Mom’s and Dad’s (or Dad’s and Dad;s, or Mom’s and Mom’s) Since father’s day was yesterday I thought I would share some ways Jerrod and I are able to build a stronger relationship after baby.

  1. Compliments and saying thank you-  Honestly, who does not appreciate a compliment. This can be a compliment for anything, but I make it a point to thank/compliment Jerrod for small things all the time.
  2. Verbally recognize each other for being a good parent and partner – we all go through phases where you feel like less than a great parent so hearing encouragement from your partner can really feel good.
  3. ask if they need help – I am sure that we can all tell when our partners are getting frustrated or overwhelmed with baby, so instead of snapping at each other out of frustration just ask “do you need help” I have noticed that just asking this or hearing it can help to calm the situation – it feels good to know your partner is paying attention.
  4. Learn to let each other parent – there are no two people that parent exactly alike, and I am a control freak so this way VERY hard for me. I always wanted to jump in and do it myself because I thought my way was “better” but as Ro has grown older I have learned that my way is no better than Jerrod’s  just different and that is okay.
  5. Make time together quality – What I mean by this is make the time you have together really matter. That means dinner at the table with no TV on, or just talking about your day before bed. I completely understand the habit of picking up your phone to just endlessly scroll, but it can make such a difference in your day and relationships to be present in the moment
  6. Know your partners love language – this sounds weird, but it totally helps! you can take a free test online and it will help you understand your partner  more. Mine is quality time, and Jerrod’s is physical love (hug, kisses, etc.) I really think this has made a difference and it is such a more simple way to understand what your partner needs when they are not feeling the love.

What are some things that your and your partner do since having a little one that help your relationship?

-Allison